All healthy relationships are uncomfortable.

Uncomfortable doesn’t mean painful or unsafe. It is very important to feel safe and free of danger in a close relationship. If that is not the case in your current relationships, then I would suggest you talk to someone or seek help. The reason we get uncomfortable is because to be in an intimate relationship means we are being called to our truth. We are encouraged to be our authentic selves. And this can be scary. “What if they don’t like what they see?” is often the thought that comes up. Well, that may be true. But how fair and interesting is it to only show your polished self to the one you love? Sounds exhausting…